Sexual Wellness

40+ Best Sex Tips for Men

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See our list for the best sex tips for men to keep things fresh in the bedroom!

Last Updated: 04/25/2022

Written by

Eric Ridenour

Medically Reviewed by

Dr. Paul Thompson

We all know that sex is a great way to feel amazing short of doing something illegal. However, men often find themselves struggling with how to make a woman happy when it comes to sex. And if you want to make sure that you're always having fun, you need to make sure she is also having fun. 

Here are plenty of tips to help you keep things interesting for years to come! 

Because everyone could use some sex life pointers

  • How can we be extraordinary in bed? 

  • What does it take for a man to have an excellent sexual experience? 

It's not just about sex. Qualities of relationships vary by mood, energy level, location, and several other factors. Getting better sleep is one worthwhile goal for better sex. A healthy sex life is great for everyone’s health and wellness from a healthier heart and a more robust immune system to even longer and more comfortable sleep. It is a nice bonus that it is also fun. Sex, when done responsibly, of course, is one of the few things we can do in life that are both amazing and fun and don't slowly kill you!

So, without further ado, let's get right into our sex advice to boost your fun in bed!

Stop smoking

If you're a smoker, you know how detrimental smoking can be to your health. And this is also true when it comes to your sex life. If you're a smoker, you'll need to quit smoking if you want to increase sexual sensation for yourself. Quitting smoking can help increase circulation, stimulate nerve endings, and even increase energy and sexual desire.

Do kegels

You are not alone in wanting to last longer. Believe it or not, premature ejaculation is the number one sex problem guys face. Kegels can help postpone ejaculation. Conquering orgasms during sex requires strengthening the pubococcygeal (PC) muscles. In time, this leads to more pleasure and lasting longer for both you and her!

Try a different position

If you're not feeling sexy in the bedroom, you can try a different position. If you're a man who loves missionary position sex, you'll need to make sure that you try other positions. Some people can't orgasm in another position, but it isn't only about you, also what your partner likes. Switch things up a bit. Start with something that makes her happy, then go to what makes you happy. 

You can still have a great sex life without being stuck in the missionary position. Plus, there are so many positions you won't even know you like until you try them. You can try having sex on the side or standing up or any number of positions. Watch porn together to come up with some ideas.

And then, there's oral sex

If you're a man who's always concerned about whether or not you have enough sex, you'll need to make sure that you're getting AND GIVING enough oral sex. Spice things up a bit and get your tongue into action. Some women can't reach orgasm without more clitoral stimulation, so the tongue can be your best tool.

Work with your hands

Let your fingers do the walking more in sexual play. You can even put each other's feet to work if your lover wants it. Our thinking is that sexual experience should be diverse. In general, penetrative sex does not satisfy everyone. 

It is a widespread belief that even most women need more than just penetration for better sex. Get the juices flowing, literally, with some rubbing during foreplay before you start intercourse to get her ready for penetration.

Play with edging

Another technique to prolong sex? Try dancing with yourself. Like with sports, guys need to know their bodies and learn how to delay their orgasm when masturbating. To avoid premature ejaculation, many people try edging. 

Edging is a form of sexual stimulation that ends shortly before orgasm. Edging tries to prolong a person's sexual pleasure. It may also amplify the effect. Practice alone and with your partner. When you feel yourself getting close, stop and force yourself to not cross the finish line just yet, then start round two. Or, this can be a great moment to change positions. 

Edging can pay dividends in helping you last longer and give you a better experience.

Get naked with your partner

Sure, becoming nude typically precedes sex. Oxytocin is released via skin-to-skin touch, a hormone linked to empathy, kindness, and pleasure. Nudity is commonly connected to self-esteem. In addition, more nude time improved body image, self-esteem, and life satisfaction. 

Being comfortable with oneself naturally leads to being comfortable with others. That small achievement will lead to many more fruitful sexual experiences.

Make sure that you're not masturbating

If you're a man who's always concerned about whether or not you have enough sex, you'll need to make sure that you're not playing with your ding-a-ling. While masturbation has some value, such as with a partner or to practice edging, masturbation too frequently makes sex less stimulating and desired. Keep it to a minimum. You don’t want to start turning Japanese, either.

Have a strong erection

If you're a man who's always concerned about whether or not you have enough sex, you'll need to make sure that you have a firm erection. Suppose you're a man who's having a hard time getting a solid erection. 

You'll need to make sure that you're not masturbating and look into solving problems like erectile dysfunction and eating healthy for better sex. Focusing on men's health overall keeps the erection firm.

Cock ring

For its low cost, ease of use, and numerous benefits, we call the cock ring the "superfood of sex toys." A tight ring around the base of the penis (and sometimes the testicles) can improve erection, confidence, and orgasms. A cock ring is also a simple solution to some forms of ED and lack of blood flow. This sex tip can easily lead to better sex and better orgasm.

Go for a quickie

Go for the quickie if you want to make sure you get your fair share of sex sessions. It lets you enjoy sex and move on with your day. Save the cuddly stuff until later. Consider using the most convenient positions. Standing doggy is a terrific alternative for busy people. Sure it isn't ideal, but trust me from personal experience, guys, a few quickies throughout the week make a difference.

Masturbate Together & Mutual Masturbation

We frequently conceive of "sex" as penis in vagina or anus, but that's a narrow definition. Enter mutual masturbation. When you're too exhausted to get it on, this is a terrific way to understand how your spouse touches themselves. You may then touch them just like they prefer it next time! You don't have to be a mind reader here, pay attention to her body language, learn your partners g spot (Hint, it is located inside a couple of inches inside the vagina's top wall It's quite sensitive and might expand when handled or stimulated, you'll know when you hit it, think inside an inch or so and up an inch or so and you will be in the area of her g spot). 

Most importantly, pay attention to how she responds. Or just watch her she bop what she does to learn what your partner likes.

Get some exercise

If you're a man who's always concerned about whether or not you have enough sex, you'll need to make sure that you're getting some exercise. Men's health is critical to men's sex. 

If you're a man who's always concerned about whether or not you have enough sex, you'll need to make sure that you're getting some exercise. Guys, if there is one way to make sure you have the stamina for more sex, you need to be concerned about men's health. This means not just exercise but a proper diet as well.

Eat healthy

This may not sound like a sex suggestion, but treating your body well with an appropriate diet benefits the entire body, including your libido. Eat nutritious meals to lower cholesterol and keep your cardiovascular system functioning properly. Proper nutrition guarantees whole-body health and increased circulation, which leads to better performance in bed, guys. So, get on it, fewer carbs, more veggies.

Discuss sex

With time, it's easy to fall into a rut and stop expressing what you want (and need) in bed. That is when it is time to interrupt the pattern. Communicate what you need from each other in bed. Discuss your sexual fantasies, go for some dirty talk, get things going in a new and fun way.

Butt stuff

Don't knock it till you try it. 

The prostate is a walnut-sized gland positioned between the bladder and the rectum. It's so satisfying that some specialists call it the "P-spot" or "male G-spot," where there are a lot of pleasurable nerve endings. 

For some, the male g-spot may be a common thing, but for others, this may be lower on the list of things to try. 

Whether your partner is a man or a woman, it is worth giving a shot. Another is tossing the salad. Sure, you may need to throw back a few shots first for this one, but it's not like anyone will tell on you. 

Take a shower first. You want to be clean for this one, but showering together is an excellent way to get things started. This brings us to our next tip:

Showers 

A shower is smaller than the bedroom and you can clean up before or afterward. But for shower sex, you need to be comfortable standing. Shower sex is best-done standing doggy style. Also, there are plenty of pleasurable sensations in seductively caressing each other down with some soap. It is almost like a whole-body light massage. It is also a great place to start with the dirty talk with your partner to get them ready for what is next!

Keep it fresh

If you're a man who's always concerned about whether or not you have enough sex, you'll need to make sure that you're keeping it fresh. One simple sex tip for better sex is to change up sex positions or even places. Don't get boring. Switch up the foreplay. Just like exercise, the same thing over and over with your partner will cause you to plateau.

Do it early in the morning

Sex first thing in the morning is great for everyone. It also helps parents who are busy and who may not have the time or energy to be romantic later. 

You're already in bed, so you are halfway there. REM sleep also increases blood to the genitals, which can cause arousal in you and your partner. It is a straightforward solution for a good sex session if you can't go during the day before getting too tired later.

Avoid alcohol

If you're a man who's always concerned about whether or not you have enough sex, you'll need to make sure that you're avoiding alcohol

If there is one sex tip that men's health experts can universally agree to focus on, this is one of them. Alcohol may lower inhibitions, but it also decreases stimulation and coordination. You can have a great sex life without worrying about having a hangover.

Set the mood

Play some soft music, light candles, even burn incense. Create a romantic atmosphere for both you and your partner. Enact a romantic sexual fantasy with your partner. 

One thing that can get your partner's mind in the mood is dim lights and a pleasant atmosphere. Bring the strawberries and whipped cream even. It's cliche, being a part of every sensual movie scene in the 80s, but so what? 

To establish the mood for an intimate evening, gentle music and dark lighting will allow you to relax and get into the moment.

Explore temperature play

Break out the ice cubes! Temperature play is a technique that uses heat or cold to stimulate the skin and provoke a sensual reaction. 

Heat things up in the boudoir by engaging in wax play, or rub an ice cube on your partner's body (nipples are especially sensitive!) to elicit a powerful sensory response. Obviously, be very careful with wax play. Never get too close, and make sure the candle is sturdy and far from you when you are done. While this is an excellent method of foreplay with your partner, I can tell you from my real-life experience that if a lit candle falls or rolls away after you start intercourse, you likely will not notice right away.

Avoid porn

If you're a man who's always concerned about whether or not you have enough sex, you'll need to make sure that you're avoiding porn. You can have a great sex life without worrying about watching porn.

Slow down

How about abstinence? It works to increase sex and make your next experience with your sweetheart more enjoyable. Abstain for a few days, a weekend, or a week. After a few days of craving, you will be amazed at what sexual satisfaction you will gain. Abstinence makes you desire what you can't have.

Work on your breathing

Yoga lovers may recognize the concept of pranayama, an innate method to control your breathing, often in the lotus position or others. 

Better breathing generally involves breathing through nostrils. The practice improves mental alertness, increases energy, and reduces fatigue. Naturally, that will be helpful for better sex too. 

Deep breathing is a vital component of the orgasmic system. The body can produce more potent or more intense ecstatic orgasms. Deep breaths also work the pelvic floor, which contracts during orgasms. Breathing through your mouth may improve circulation, eliciting more nitric oxide in urine and improving oxygen absorption.

Better sex starts with foreplay outside the bedroom

The bedroom is not the whole of your sex life. Do your best to maintain sexual contact throughout the day, especially if you intend to do so later. Foreplay starts the first moment we wake up. To please each other, feel comfortable, and be encouraged, we must communicate our wants in ways that help us help each other.

Send a flirty text after lunch. DM a provocative meme. Tell your lover you miss them even while you're apart. These things will keep the thought of sex and foreplay with your partner on the mind's back burner all day. Flirtation is vital in a relationship. It's an excellent way to end the day. Keep that energy, whether at home or not. It leads to better sex at the end of the day.

Make out more

Kissing reduces a person's stress by promoting connection, creating endorphins that fight depression and anxiety. Locking lips is the most obvious and easiest of the sex tips on the list. Take the long view and bite your lip and close your eyes, take her away to paradise!

Once a kiss crosses the six-second mark, the body releases oxytocin, dopamine, and corticosteroids, increasing circulation and elevating the heartbeat. A longer kiss also creates deeper relationships with your partner.

Erogenous zones all over

We prefer to focus on our genitals when it comes to improving sex. We have several erogenous zones all over our bodies, not all of them are between the legs. 

Some find having their ears nibbled or caressed sexy. And some people enjoy being touched all over. Some think nipple stimulation alone might induce orgasm. Remember to explore all of our possible pleasure centers. 

Remember, even maintaining eye contact showing a woman or man you have their undivided attention can be a massive turn-on. You want your partner to know their entire body and total pleasure have your singular focus while creating arousal. There is no such thing as too much stimulation before sex.

Praise her body

Want to make her crazy and get amazing sex? Find something about her and tell her she is the greatest at it. This can be the way she wears her hair, a body part, or even just complimenting her being there for you.

As Chris Rock once famously said: "There are only three things women need in life: food, water, and compliments."

Become the hunter

You don't have to be a woman in bed to think like one. Pay special attention to her neck, feet, and inner thighs. Tease her cruelly. Encourage her to tell you what she wants more of while eye gazing to know you care.

Frankie say relax!

Speaking of wise pop culture sages, another Frankie once said: "Relax, don't do it.

When you want to go to it, Relax, don't do it When you want to come!" And it is precisely about this point.

Men like to be eager for more fantastic sex, whereas women like to relax. She may relax by washing her hair or massaging her scalp. A woman might first want to relax before getting started.

Try new sex toys

If you're a man who's always concerned about whether or not you have enough sex, you'll need to make sure that you're trying new toys. If you're a man who's always concerned about whether or not you're getting enough, you'll need to make sure that you're trying new toys.

...Or go even further

Try spanking, tying up, or even bondage!

Make a sex playlist

Music makes us happy and can help set the mood. Music stimulates dopamine release, the brain's "feel-good chemical." Adding sex to the mix doubles the dosage. Grap a classic Enigma playlist and create a mood based on erotic music or even sensual songs like If by Janet Jackson.

Music may also help you perform better. Certain types of music have been shown to boost arousal indications, including heart and breathing rate. Music might aid enhance rhythm and overall sexual pleasure. So tune-up with some rhythmic and erotic. 

Adopt a new self

There's nothing wrong with excellent sex. Some prefer "plain" play. Others may want something more complicated. Sexual desires are often realized via role-playing or new sex positions.

Who hasn't wished to be someone else, especially in the bedroom? 

Dressing up and practicing a script might lead to feeling silly. So start slowly and develop confidence. Before engaging in an in-person role-playing fantasy, consider some role-play text messages. Consider what makes you both happiest and how you might best express it. Also, remember it is ok to break your character, this isn’t Broadway. 

See a sex therapist

Even couples who think they have things locked up in the bedroom can learn a thing or two from a sex therapist. When did learning new tricks ever hurt? 

It's always good to learn new things and learn how to keep it exciting. Sex therapy is very similar to any other method of counseling: You sit down with a therapist to work through everything from intimacy issues to erectile or other sexual dysfunction. And a sex therapist isn't just for people who have problems. Even traditional therapists work best when you improve what you are already good at.

Develop a signature move

You can never do anything completely new with sex. There are countless new positions to try. You must adapt your style specifically for whomever you will use this style for. You should also put the emphasis on pleasure and not the performance. Look for what your partner enjoys the most and focus on being the best possible. 

Remember lubrication

It's ok to use a lubricant to please your partner. While some people may have trouble getting sufficiently wet, some positions like anal are tough without it. 

Stress, certain times of the month, or exhaustion can make it difficult for women to become physically energized even while cognitively engaged. Keep lubricant in the nightstand drawer. And no, spit isn't just as good.

Plan a sex vacation

Some researchers suggest that vacationers have more sexual contact without children and other adults than in their lives. However, it doesn't take traveling to other countries to stimulate sexual energy. Make reservations near home, hire a child care assistant, and spend some time exploring your sexuality. Make it regularly happen once a month if you are able. Alternate who plans weekend activities to keep it fresh. 

Or even rent a local Airbnb and make it a mission to make use of every room in the house or even outside, just don’t get a blister in the sun.

Self-care

Treat your penis well. You only have one of them. Injuries to the penis occur when your spouse is on top or when penetration is missed. If things get out of hand, tell your spouse to use caution. 

Penile injuries can lead to Peyronie's disease, or even some rough sex can lead to chafing, which can sideline you for up to a week.

Don't fall into a routine

You probably are likely to fall into habitual behavior. It happens to all of us. Maybe something is interesting to you that you like? Or even new sex positions you are curious about. Heck, perhaps even just talk dirty on occasion. 

People are always looking for novelty, particularly in long-term relationships. Do you hate the monotony of sexual activity? Do something different.

Do sexy research together

Bringing in a fresh idea in a bedroom can feel intimidating. Make sure your partner will join you on this mission. See what they'd like to see. 

Do you read erotica? Tell your partner everything that is happening and discuss what you find attractive. Similarly, it's possible to avoid a painful rejection when it is a theoretical conversation. You may want to pass on that suggestion if you elicit a laugh.

Don't underestimate her pleasure points

Researchers who studied the sexual experience of straight women found that a considerable minority of women (19%) reported ongoing difficulties obtaining any orgasm during intercourse. However, many (8 percent of all women and 11 percent of young women) reported having numerous orgasms easily. 

The Best Sex Starts When You Lose Your Fear of Taking Control

The only way to make sex a habit is to remember that consent in sexual relations is critical, not only in the sex itself. 

You shouldn't engage in any sexual activities without permission, or pressure someone to be angry with the situation. It does also not make it hard to tell your partner what you want and ask what they are interested in. 

Taking control of your performance in the bedroom is the best way to have the best sexual experience in your lifetime. It's more than just being sexy and intense when you are in bed.

If you're a man who's always concerned about whether or not you have enough sex, you'll need to make sure that you're talking to your partner. Communication is key.

The best sex tips for men are those they can practice without feeling like they're being forced to do something they don't want to do. So use this list wisely. You don't need to use every tip here to see improvement. Go through the list with your partner and choose two or three at a time to kick things up a notch and see where it leads you. For some, two or three sex tips are enough, while others may even make their way through the entire list! As long as you and your partner have more fun and are happier, that is all that matters.